Communications

So I have a dear friend, who happens to be gay, and recently his sister found out.

I'm sure she meant it with all the love in her heart, but she decided to text him about her opinions on the matter.

Thankfully, she did still say that she loved him and he would always be her brother. But she also said some things that were not as nice. She doesn't approve of him acting on his feelings.

The part that was not okay?

She did this in a text.

This post is not meant to open a discussion on homosexuality or anything like that.

It's about communication.

And how everyone now a days seems to suck at it worse than ever before.

When you have something important to discuss with someone, the only reason a text should even be involved is to see if they are available to talk. NOTHING MORE!

If you actually care about someone, you should be able to talk to them about the important things IN PERSON! If in person is simply not an option (i.e. they live in another state or a great distance. Or something like unto that.) then you should CALL THEM!!!

One, so much can be lost in a text message. What you hear in your head as you type is going to be much different than what they read. And it's no ones fault, it's just how it works.

Two, why can't you talk to them? Do you really need to hide behind a text?

Three, if you love them, why wouldn't you want to talk to them? Especially if it is something that worries you about a choice they are making?

(and before you get mad at me and yell homosexuality is not a choice, because I know someone is going to draw that connection. I know the feelings are not a choice. But what we do with those feelings, homosexual OR heterosexual, that is where the choice lies.)

There is this growing problem where people won't talk to each other. It's easier to never say the words or wait until you can hide behind text.

I am constantly amazed at people who want something created where you can talk into the phone, it will send your message, and the other person can hear it, like a vocal text message. Guess what? IT ALREADY EXISTS!! It's called a telephone call.

You put in the persons number, they answer and you have a conversation.

It makes me sad that conversations are a dying art.

Maybe this is why I want to get into communications.

Moral of the story, stop hiding behind a text. If you have something important to say, just say it.